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Once you get close to going into labor and having your baby, you're going to be waiting for any sign of labor starting. I know that once I got into the last month of my pregnancy, I was so impatient for any sign of contractions or my water breaking. You never know if your water will just break randomly throughout the day or if you'll start getting contractions out of nowhere, so it's definitely hard to know what to expect or what to prepare for. I personally enjoyed hearing other people's labor stories just so I could better prepare myself.
I can't tell you how many times I googled different things to see if I had any signs of labor. One of my coworkers was due just a few months before me, so she told me how she went into labor, and it definitely helped me feel a little better once I was getting close to going into labor myself. Her water had broke, but it wasn't a gush, it slowly leaked. She wasn't even for sure if it was amniotic fluid at first since it was just slowly leaking out, and she hadn't had any contractions; but thankfully she went to the hospital and everything went perfectly fine.
Movies and TV shows have twisted how labor is in real life. We see a woman's water breaking dramatically and then her shuffling around in this massive puddle at her feet. In most cases, labor doesn't happen this way, but it's hard to get the image out of your head. I heard several different stories about others' water breaking as well; some woke up laying in wet sheets, some had a stream running down their legs, and some never had their water break on its own at all. I also heard that the amniotic fluid mostly resembled water, just a clear liquid. And all of these things are true and more common, so I thought I knew what to look for if I did go into labor and my water broke.
When I went into labor, I just had contractions and kept timing them and waiting for the trickle of amniotic fluid. Every time I went into the bathroom, I checked for any changes in discharge, but my mom (who was with me during labor) assured me that I would know if my water broke because it would be a stream. After a couple of hours of seeing pinkish, watery discharge, but not in a stream, I did a lot of searching online to see if what I was looking at was amniotic fluid or just more mucus. Almost everything I searched said that my water would burst, not slowly leak, and that it would be more clear than have a color, so I was still questioning what I was seeing. Luckily, my husband and my mom convinced me to go ahead to the hospital because after a little over a day of contractions at that point, I was almost completely dilated by the time I got to the hospital. And sure enough, my amniotic sac had a small tear in it, causing the fluid to slowly leak out rather than stream out. 
So knowing if your water breaks, it isn't as clear cut as it seems in movies. It may not even break on its own, so don't only look for your water breaking as a sign of going into labor. It may be a sudden burst of fluid, it may happen after hours of contractions, or it could just slowly leak out so that you barely notice it. If you notice that your water breaks, don't wait around too much longer, so get to the hospital (if that's where you choose to deliver). There's a chance that, once the amniotic sack breaks and the fluid is released, that you can get an infection and it can effect the baby, so don't waste too much time.

  • Several full pads. Wear a pad if you think you are having different discharge than usual. If the pad fills up relatively quickly, put on another one. If this one fills up too, it is most likely amniotic fluid meaning your water has broke. Sometimes, you can urinate on yourself without realizing in, especially if you're already having contractions, so you'll want to make sure it's not urine.
  • Watery consistency. You may notice more discharge than normal, but if it's thick and snotty, it's most likely mucus and not amniotic fluid. The reason they say your water is breaking is because the amniotic fluid is just that, a fluid. It's going to resemble water, not be thick or like jelly.
  • Look and smell. In most cases, amniotic fluid is clear, sometimes appearing bloody or pinkish. There can be chunks of mucus within the fluid as well, but it won't only be mucus. Amniotic fluid has no smell, so it will be easy to tell apart from urine. 
If you feel like you are leaking amniotic fluid or it is streaming out, do not hesitate to contact your doctor or go ahead to the hospital. Even if you're not 100% sure, they can test the discharge to see if it's amniotic fluid once you're at the hospital.
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The first few times being away from your baby is definitely going to be difficult, regardless of who your baby is with. You'll be afraid that they won't know how to soothe your baby, to get them to sleep enough, or the worst could happen and your baby gets hurt. As a new parent, you won't trust hardly anyone with your baby in the beginning. In three months, I've only been away from my son three times, for only 30 minutes to an hour each time, and I was beyond worried.
I breastfeed my son, so it's already harder to be away from him for a long time. I pump and he can take a bottle, so he doesn't have to be with me all the time, but it's definitely something I worry about. I was the only one who was able to feed him for a little over a month, before we gave him a bottle, so feeding him was something that I became very attached to; it was our own personal way to bond that no one else could have. Of course, other people do give him a bottle; mainly his dad and grandmas. Being away from him and knowing that he will have to be fed by someone else was one of the things that I had to get used to in the beginning.
One of the bigger things that I worry about is that when I'm not with him, someone will go against my wishes as his mom. For example, my son has never had a pacifier, not by choice, he just never showed signs of needing or wanting one; but I don't want someone to give him a pacifier if I'm not with him. I'm also concerned that they will try to feed him foods he can't have yet, which has been done in front of me already. There are certain ground rules that are laid down as a parent, and it's hard to trust that all of your wishes will be followed if someone feels they know better or wants to do something different.
There are rare occasions when my son gets fussy and won't calm down easily. He'll fuss even though he just ate, has a clean diaper, has been laid down, held all different ways, and nothing is wrong with him besides he simply wants comfort and attention. Usually when this happens, since he doesn't get a pacifier and is breastfed, I'll just nurse him and he'll usually fall asleep. I worry that he may get fussy with someone while I'm not there with him and they won't be able to soothe him. I always imagine I'll get a call while I'm away from him because he's started crying and they can't help him; or that they may not call me if something is wrong with him and just let him cry.
I know that these things are just because I'm his mom and want everything to be perfect for him. He has only been left with my husband and my mom, and I trust them with my son and know they won't do anything I don't want them to do. He is the focal point of my life every day, so it's hard to be without him and switch gears back to being me without him.
If you don't stay at home with your baby and go back to work, then you'll have to consider babysitters or day-cares. This is even harder and more stressful of a task because if you don't have any family or friends that are able to babysit your baby, then you'll have to consider people you don't necessarily know to watch them. Hearing all of the horror stories of babies and little kids being mistreated in day-care settings is definitely going to make it harder to find people you can trust. Of course, it'll get easier over time, but there will still be days where it'll be hard to be away from your baby.
Whether you're going to be away from your baby for only a few days out of the month or if you'll be going back to work, being away from your baby is going to be stressful and worrisome. Every mother feels this way at first, but it will get easier. 
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If you're getting close to having that baby, you're probably feeling the most impatient you've ever felt in your entire life. Waiting on your baby to come is going to be the only thing you can think about for the last month or two of your pregnancy. If you want to try to naturally induce labor at home, you must be at least 37 weeks to be safe for you and the baby. A good thing to remember is that you can do all of these things for weeks, but if the baby or your body aren't ready for labor, then it still won't happen. There are so many different ways that people have tried over the years, and there's no way that I can list all of them, so here's some of the ones I've tried or have heard from other moms that have tried them.
  • Having Sex. Everyone knows about this one. The important thing to remember is that it's not just having sex, but having an orgasm. The uterus naturally contracts, which can cause contractions to begin. Sperm can also soften the cervix, helping to dilate to begin labor as well. Some people swear that the morning after having sex they went into labor or later that day, but for me, it simply didn't happen.
  • Walking. Exercising, specifically walking, has been known to help prepare the body for labor. Getting into motion and moving your legs can help to open up your hips to prepare for birth. Be careful not to do too much and tire yourself out too bad. I walked for an extra 15-20 minutes on a treadmill or around the grocery store when I went to shop for the last couple of weeks of my pregnancy; right before I went into labor, it seemed to make my Braxton Hicks stronger, but they went away.
  • Birthing Ball. Getting a birthing or yoga ball to sit and bounce on can have a similar affect as walking. It makes since that gravity could help to ease the baby down into the birthing position and onto the cervix. The only times I've heard of birthing balls really helping is when you're already in labor and trying to dilate and distract yourself from contractions.
  • Yoga. There are several yoga positions and squatting positions that can help with opening up your hips, helping the baby to move further into your uterus and onto the cervix. The baby's head putting pressure on the cervix can help you thin-out and dilate. Be careful with squatting and positions that can cause you to lose your balance, and don't overdo it.
  • Nipple Stimulation. It is believed that nipple stimulation can trick the body into thinking the baby is nursing already, causing your uterus to contract. These muscle contractions can lead to labor contractions. It's a good idea to take it easy if you try stimulation; if it does jump-start labor, it can make the contractions more intense in the beginning and make them progress too quickly. I personally tried this method, and can say that it could definitely cause labor. I felt contractions, but nothing really stuck. I think it could have helped me in losing my mucus plug.
  • Eat Spicy Foods. The science behind eating spicy food is just a theory that the digestion of the spicy food will cause contractions in the uterus as well. Several people I know say that eating spicy food helped them to induce labor. Plus it could help you clean out your system before you actually do go into labor.
  • Castor Oil. Everyone has heard this one, mostly from your mom or grandma. Many doctors don't recommend drinking castor oil, so definitely ask your doctor if you really want to try this one.
  • Red Raspberry Leaf Tea. This tea is supposed to help soften the cervix to start labor. Once in labor, it's supposed to make the contractions stronger and labor shorter in turn. Lots of midwives recommend drinking this tea. I know someone who swears by this tea for inducing labor and tried it with both of her daughters.
  • Acupressure & Acupuncture. Acupuncture isn't as easily done and isn't really something you can do at home, but has been known to help start labor. Acupressure on the other hand is something that you can easily do at home. The spot between your thumb and finger and the spot on the back of the foot above your heel are two places I heard are the best for inducing labor.
Although I tried several of these for a couple of weeks, especially once I got to be 39 weeks pregnant, I still went past my due date by 5 days. Inducing your labor at home is possible, but it won't work thoroughly if your body and baby simply aren't ready yet. I would recommend whole-heartedly trying these methods if your around 38 weeks or more, just because it is more likely to work and be safe for you. So if you're impatiently waiting to go into labor, why not try to make it come faster with a little extra exercise or some special time with your partner?
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